...or maybe absent is more like it. My mind has been focused on all the stations of transition in our lives right now. Lots of changes, some big and some small but all are important.
The biggest transition....the biggest change....is that my husband is changing careers. Not just his job. This has been a dream of his for nearly a decade. The Lord orchestrated this timing perfectly and all the doors were flung open for him and the support that rallied around him was so encouraging. This will be a very felt transition for the whole family. He won't be just changing buildings or offices. He will have 4 months of intense study and training - right here in our basement, taking all the classes and tests on-line through the company. It means creating a working, functioning office space for him. It means a diminished income (but we've been planning and saving for this possible opportunity for many years and have a plan), tightening the belts and making choices more thoughtfully. It means he will be home, the commute from home to work will be mere seconds. It means lunches and hugs and learning to respect each others work and work space while sharing it. It means new schedules and volume levels. It means a lot of unknowns and that our attitudes will need to be chosen wisely. It means a big huge transition for him physically and mentally.
The school year means transitioning from seeing our daughter frequently, to very little. Its hard. Hard to have to miss out on the little things we will never get to be part of. Morning routines and kitchen door send offs. It means more phone calls and facebooking. Catching up on the details of her life after the fact.
The school year also means our Dude is in the middle of his own big transition. It's waking up earlier, riding a bus, learning to navigate the hallways and get to classes on time. Dealing with stubborn lockers and learning to play an instrument. Making friends and finding his place. Starting a new youth program and meeting new leaders and students.
For me it means supporting all these people I love so much. It means being aware of where we all are, what the needs are of our family and making sure that the tone set in our home is one that gives them comfort. Making sure that home is a place where they can decompress, relax, refresh and restore from all that stuff that goes on in their day. A place where they can feel free to talk it all through and know that there is someone who is going to listen, help them find a solution or just simply understand the frustration. A place full of hugs and sometimes cookies but always a place where they feel safe to be who they are and have a voice to say what it is they are feeling.
Gosh, even the house itself has gone through some big changes. Dude's room was redecorated. Living room got new furniture and everything was moved around. All the furniture moving changed out a couple of pieces in the dining area. The basement has had a huge face lift just from trading the furniture out and moving everything around. There was another great purge and a trailer load of stuff was brought to the dump. The garage got cleaned out and totally reorganized.
The Great Purge of 2012 seems to go so far beyond just the stuff we are getting rid of. Old selves are being cast off. Weight is being lost both physically and mentally. Attitudes are shifting and there is great growth happening. Its an interesting place in life. Only the Lord knows what else this season will bring.
Blessings of flexibility and patience to endure the shifting seasons with grace and wisdom,