It's Mr's birthday this coming weekend. Monday started his first day of his new job - which is basically to study his brains out so he can pass his series 7 and 66 exams before Christmas. It also happens to be MEA week here and the Dude is off school Wednesday through Friday and Wonderteen will be here tonight for a bit, then off to a church group sleepover and then back here during the day tomorrow. During all this Mr needs to be studying downstairs in his new home office.
He has a rigorous schedule to keep up with. Daily quizzes and tests need to be accomplished and the schedule is 6 days a week. This was an opportunity to set up a nice space for him downstairs. I purchased black shelves and frames for the wall, ordered some prints from Shutterfly so he can have some nice pictures on the wall and set up a buffet surface with some healthy snacks, tissues, paper plates and such just like he had in his work office. Uncluttering was maybe the biggest job as that particular area had become a catchall for the random things removed from other areas of the house. Now he has a nice chair and coffee table along with his desk area so he can have a change of pace.
His birthday Saturday offers opportunities to bless him. I decided to have fun with it and give him little gifts each day leading up to it. Yesterday was flowers and a hilarious card that talks - "the pocket hot dog", it made us both laugh.
The kids being home this week will present unique challenges. Extra traffic to the basement shower, extra volume and footsteps....boredom and bodies upstairs in my space. The practice of editing my words has been something I've been working on for many years now. My mother was very negative and berating of my father. Early in our marriage we both recognized those patterns coming through in my speech and it made neither of us happy. In the beginning it was as if I had no control of it or clue as to how to choose different words. My mind saw the down side, the 'poor me', finger pointing perspective all too easily. If I couldn't edit my thoughts how would I ever edit what came out of my mouth?
My journey began there to change my view of the world, my circumstances and fully embrace the fact that all things are a choice. My free will goes beyond just my ability to choose the Lord or reject Him. I have the choice to train my mind. I can choose how I see a situation, how I receive and react to words spoken to me, I can choose what I say and how I feel and what I think. It is ALL a choice and to believe anything less is a lie, an excuse to not put in the work it takes.
"out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks"
What is the abundance of your heart? Listen to your words and you'll find out. If you think it isn't an accurate reflection.......look closer. Either you are lying to yourself that your heart is filled with something other than it is, you are in denial about the tone of your words or you need to seriously ask yourself why your heart and your mouth don't match.
It is a change that takes a lot of work. I think when Mr told me that I had a joyful spirit I finally felt like I had purged out that person I thought I was genetically doomed to be. I know there is a whole nature vs nurture theory but beyond my physical looks I choose to believe that what is in me, who I am, is not and will never be beyond my control to choose.
So in this challenge I am encouraging my husband but I am also gifting him with an improved wife in the process. A wife whose attitude is improved by the training of her mind.
Things are in a big transition in our home and family. This challenge couldn't come at a better time...time to train up my mind and make sure my attitude stays in check. This is a time to not allow my circumstances to give me permission to be sour but to hold my mind and my tongue captive to obey Christ. (2 Cor. 10:5) It is not my job to measure myself against another but to do and be what He asks of me.
Blessings to you for the discipline to hold your mind captive and discover the abundance of your heart,